Season 1, Episode 11: When You Are Not Quiet and Gentle
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Thanks for listening to Season 1, Episode 11 of The After Dinner Mint, a podcast of Stories I’d Tell You at Dinner. We bring Christian women in Western Australia together through honest stories. Thanks for sharing your day with us!
When You Are Not Quiet and Gentle is an exuberant conversation with Rach, Maddy, and Bec about extrovert personalities (the personality type that calls out to a speaker from the back of the room), the downward mental spiral when you compare yourself to Maud Flanders, and what on earth “quiet and gentle” actually means. Is it a personality type or something much more? Join an ED nurse, a women’s ministry worker, and clinical psych reg on a tour through nineties church culture, 1 Peter 3:3-4, and Greek words.
Disclaimer: We really, really emphasise that we are 100% not experts here. We’re processing what we’re learning about the application of biblical principles to life in the hope you might have these conversations with your friends too.
In today’s episode, we:
Deep dive the concepts of quiet and gentle
Discuss our experiences of not fitting the “quiet and gentle” mould
Explore personality, internal vs external quietness, restless hearts, and dependence on the Lord
Discuss what faithfulness to God has called you to do and be looks like in different women
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Mentioned in the show
Neither Gentle or Quiet: God’s Heart for the Extrovert by Phylicia Masonheimer
My Rock, My Refuge: A Year of Daily Devotions in the Psalms by Timothy and Kathy Keller
Women Worth Knowing podcast
12 Faithful Women: Portraits of Steadfast Endurance edited by Melissa Kruger & Kristin Wetherell
“You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in thee,” Augustine
Bible Verses
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
1 Peter 3:3-4 NIV
“Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.”
1 Timothy 3:1-4 NIV (emphasis added)
“He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.””
Psalms 46:10 NIV
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
Galatians 5:22-23 NIV
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.”
James 1:5-8 NIV
The story of Jesus turning over the tables in the temple is recounted in Matthew 21, Mark 11, Luke 19, and John 2.
“You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance. Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled.”
Titus 2:1-6 NIV
1 Timothy chapter 5
“O Lord, my heart is not lifted up; my eyes are not raised too high; I do not occupy myself with things too great and too marvelous for me. But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child is my soul within me. O Israel, hope in the Lord from this time forth and forevermore.”
Psalm 131:1-3 ESV