Season 1, Episode 13. Why Do The Sads Feel So Sad?
Why Do The Sads Feel So Sad?
Why Do The Sads Feel So Sad? is a deep dive into grief with a Mental Health Social Worker, a woman in ministry, and a Clinical Psych Registrar. Britt, Maddy and Bec explore our experiences of grief including bereavement but also discuss loss through transitions, aging, and the loss of dreams and potential.
Can grief be a gift? How do we learn to live with it when our bodies shut down? How do we grieve in community? How do we grieve as Christians? As always, we have questions. Join us around the dinner table as we flesh this one out.
Thanks for listening to Season 1, Episode 13 of The After Dinner Mint, a podcast of Stories I’d Tell You at Dinner. We bring Christian women in Western Australia together through honest stories. Thanks for sharing your day with us!
Why Do The Sads Feel So Sad? is a deep dive into grief with a Mental Health Social Worker, a woman in ministry, and a Clinical Psych Registrar. Britt, Maddy and Bec explore our experiences of grief including bereavement but also discuss loss through transitions, aging, and the loss of dreams and potential. Life in a fallen world means we, collectively, are well acquainted with grief.
Can grief be a gift? How do we learn to live with it when our bodies shut down? How do we grieve in community? How do we grieve as Christians? As always, we have questions. Join us around the dinner table as we flesh this one out.
In today’s episode, we:
🎧 What grief is and the common responses of either ignoring it or being consumed by it.
🎧 How our lives have been shaped by sitting with grief and what it means to grieve as a Christian.
🎧 Making space for grief and being able to sit with it, through therapy, deep friendships, prayer and lament, and what makes this vital skill difficult.
🎧 Grieving in community: the good, the bad and the ugly.
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Bible verses
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11 ESV) - most misquoted verse in history.
(I couldn’t find the Batman meme. The internet gives and it takes away. Ten gold stars if you find it and send it to me. 🌟🌟🌟)
Psalm 22
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-5 ESV)
“When my soul was embittered, when I was pricked in heart, I was brutish and ignorant; I was like a beast toward you. Nevertheless, I am continually with you; you hold my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will receive me to glory.” (Psalm 73:21-24 ESV)
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39)
Mentioned in this episode:
What I Learned Through Loss: An Interview with Maddy Rhodes
Letters to Emma by Lee Carter
Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy: Discovering the Grace of Lament by Mark Vroegop
Any Time, Any Place, Any Prayer by Laura Wifler and illustrated by Catalina Echeverri
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing.
At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when the house is empty. If only they would talk to one another and not to me.” (from C.S. Lewis’ A Grief Observed)
“We were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, 'Blessed are they that mourn,' and I accept it. I've got nothing that I hadn't bargained for. Of course it is different when the thing happens to oneself, not to others, and in reality, not imagination.” (from C.S. Lewis’ A Grief Observed)
“Everything difficult indicates something more than our theory of life yet embraces,” George MacDonald